Place a large, heavy pot on medium heat.
Leave to heat up (10 minutes).
Add ghee and allow it to melt (2 - 3 minutes).
Add dried bay leaves.
Allow the leaves to fry (2 - 3 minutes).
Remove the leaves.
Turn the heat to high.
Add all of the flour.
Stir continuously to incorporate (preferably with a sturdy wooden utensil like a dabla).
Continue to stir for 5 minutes.
Reduce heat to low.
Cook for 10 to 15 minutes, stir continuously (until the flour slurry develops a light brown color).
Add cream of wheat.
Stir for 2 minutes.
Add raisins and incorporate.
Set the heat to high.
Add half of the paag, all of the milk and the remainder of the paag.
Stir until the liquid has boiled off leaving a crumbly flour parsad (mixing will be harder since the parsad becomes thick and heavy).
Remove from heat.
Transfer to a large bowl to cool.
Break up large clumps before serving.